Growing up neuroqueer often means learning how to shapeshift just to belong. In this post, I explore neuroqueer masking — and the deep exhaustion that comes from hiding both neurodivergent traits and queer identity at the same time. I share what double masking looks like, why it leads to burnout, and how this survival strategy slowly disconnects us from ourselves. If you’ve ever felt wiped out just from existing, you’re not alone, and there’s nothing wrong with you.

When I first heard the word genderqueer, it felt like someone finally turned the lights on. Growing up with rigid gender expectations left me confused, unseen, and longing to belong. In this personal reflection, I share how discovering my genderqueer identity helped me make sense of my experience beyond the binary. If you’ve ever questioned where you fit or felt like the rules of gender never applied to you, I see you and you don’t have to walk this path alone.

Coming out later in life can feel like a truth bomb you didn’t see coming, even if it’s been quietly ticking inside for years. After countless convos with clients and fellow practitioners, many of whom asked me to write about this.

I finally did.

Not from a high horse, but from lived experience. I’ve been there, and I’ve had the honour of walking beside others through it too. Whether you’re 28, 48, or 68, this blog is for anyone who’s wondered: “Is it too late to come out?”

Spoiler: it’s not. You’re not broken. You’re not behind. You’re right on time.

It’s your time to shine! Let’s talk about what it really means to start living as your full self, no matter when it happens.

Thinking about starting hormone therapy and unsure how to prepare for your hormone readiness assessment? As a transgender Vancouver therapist, I’ve supported many transgender folks through this step, and I’m sharing seven down-to-earth tips to help you feel more grounded, informed, and affirmed. From finding the right provider to leaning on community wisdom, this guide is here to remind you that you don’t have to navigate this alone. Your journey matters, and support is right here. 🌈💬

Finding a place where you truly belong is life-changing. In my latest blog post, I share my journey of discovering community as a queer person—how it shaped my confidence, my faith, and my work as a counsellor. Whether you’re questioning where you fit in or searching for support, you’re not alone. Belonging takes time, but it’s worth it. Read on to explore how finding your people can help you embrace your most authentic self. 🌈

Finding myself meant giving up a lot of what I thought I knew. And being ok with it. It takes work, but it's a big part of acceptance

Chosen family is about finding the people who truly see, accept, and support you. In this post, I share my journey of belonging, how I found my own chosen family, and why it's so vital for queer individuals. If you're searching for your people, this is for you.

Can you be queer and have a faith? Explore how spirituality and identity can coexist, find belonging, and embrace your authentic self with hope and courage :)

Learn from my personal journey and find answers to the age-old question: How do I come out? Get guidance and support in your own journey.

With the change in seasons, one topic I’ve seen repeatedly is the notion of gender identity as seasons. While this is a newer term in my repertoire, it's not a foreign concept to me… Read and find out more!

Feeling overwhelmed by all the options for testosterone replacement therapy (TRT)? You’re not alone. Starting this journey can be confusing and full of questions: where do you even begin?

Let this blog post be your starting point. Your friendly guide, if you may. It will help you navigate the basics of TRT, from understanding costs and available support to figuring out what path feels right for you.

Remember, there’s no “one way” to transition—your journey is unique. Together, let’s explore the options and feel a bit more grounded as you step into your journey of self-discovery.

“Gender-affirming care in BC” has been such a buzz qord, that I thought it’s worth writing an article about!

Gender affirming care supports youth in feeling more aligned with their true selves. Whether it’s using the right pronouns, hormone therapy, or something else, each journey is unique.

One of the most commonly asked question I got asked is “does it always include surgery?”

The goal is to help you feel good in your body and identity, whatever that looks like for you. Early access to care can boost confidence, and virtual appointments make it easy to connect.

Curious about what gender-affirming care could look like for you? Let’s explore!

Gender identity. Two words, many different definitions.
It's one slice in the whole pizza of our personal identity
We all have different perspectives on who we are and how we'd like others to perceive us.

For transgender and non-binary folx, more often than not, our gender identity exploration feels more like a journey.
Some folx feels chipper with being addressed with the right name and pronouns. While some others feel that hormone therapy is the vehicle that help take them from point A to point B.

This is a 2-part series on hormone therapy, and last week I shared a bit about what hormone therapy is and today we’ll learn some more about how hormone therapy can transform your body.

Hormone therapy for transgender folx is a part of gender affirming care that can help gender expansive folx look and feel differently about their body. It may look like either feminizing (estrogen) or masculinizing (testosterone) hormones. In this article, I will share my verdict on the what and when to consider hormone therapy.

Change is the only thing that is certain in life. Some folks may go through significant life transitions smoothly, while others may feel like it threw a wrench in their lives. Find out 3 magical ways life transitions counseling can provide some va-va-voom to provide you with some clarity and direction. Let's keep the spark in your life going.

Do you know that there are over 70 professional titles within the counselling profession in Canada. That is why it is *not a surprise at all* that tons of Canadiansfelt super overwhelmed and don't know where to go. A lot of people ended up handling things on their own.

There is no one-size-fits all solutions to getting things off your chest. So, knowing who to go for what would be a helpful step towards the right direction. Explore the key differences between psychologists and psychotherapists in Canada.

As humans, we don’t come with a handbook (actually - we kind of wrote that handbook ourselves with therapeutic practices like AEDP therapy).

AEDP therapy can bring out that kickass in you by: (1) helping you reconnect with who you are, (2) name your experience, (3) explore who you want to be and how we can get you there!

As I was dreaming up this piece, I really got into thinking about how most of my content has been talking about what I do, who I work with and how I show up to our sessions. I realized, however, that I don’t talk about the background things - my tools - that make it possible for my superpowers to shine even brighter. 

Summer is a bit of a wild card for teens and youth. School daily routines and structure are out the window.

This season of change, of new activities, expectations, experiences may be challenging for some youths. And this is where a youth counsellor can step in to provide that va-va-voom intervention to turn this chaos into opportunity for growth!

I noticed that lots of time the discussion about allyship focuses a lot on ‘doing’ something for marginalized folks. Well, the doing itself isn’t wrong per se. Though I felt this is where critical allyship takes this idea of allyship up a notch.