Critical Allyship in the workplace: Finding beauty in diversity & Dissolving the status quo
I write it from the perspective of someone who is queer who came out later in life, so I have lived on both sides of the camp of being queer and non-queer.
First thing first, what is allyship all about…
Fun fact: the word ‘ally’ originally comes from a Latin word ‘alligare’ which means “to bind to.”
An ally is someone who has your back.
They may come from a privileged position and actually leverage their privilege to stand alongside you. That’s why a true ally will stick with you through thick and thin
They do not come and go as they please.
A true ally in the workplace will back you up when you need some more support.
Allyship is an active and consistent unlearning. To be in solidarity with.
Allyship is NOT a self-proclaimed identity or a badge of honour.
Allyship is a daily practice of showing up.
A good friend (who happens to be a rad copywriter) did a deeper dive on what it means to be an LGBTQ+ ally in another article. Rather than being redundant here, why don’t you check the original version ;)
So, how does critical allyship come into play
In what way does critical allyship take the idea of a mere allyship up a notch?!?
Some of the hiccups I heard on the ground when we talk about the concept of allyship is that some folks felt as if it is forced upon them…
Let’s say a co-worker identify as gender diverse and experiment with different pronouns and names. Without an understanding and context, it might seem as if that said co-worker may come accross as imposing their personal identity upon other folks in the office.
This is where, I kind of see the principle of critical allyship comes in handy
Critical allyship promotes listening rather than jumping straight to action
This aspect of critical allyship may at glance feels counter intuitive. It is our natural inclination to want to fix something. Though this is where, to practice critical allyship, we need to take a step back and NOT assume that we have all the answers.
Critical allyship can help us find beauty in diversity
Forming your critical allyship army in the workplace
While anyone can be an ally in the workplace, typically they are colleagues who come from privileged positions like male (sex), white (skin colour), cis- heteronormative, senior or high job ranking (position) within the company.
An ally in a workplace setting typically holds more power and comes from more privileged backgrounds, so they have the ability, responsibility, and capability to choose whether or not to be an ally.
Colleagues who identify as an ally in the workplace support their fellow colleagues from minority groups who may not have the same advantages. They could be women of colour, personally identify as LGBTQ+, immigrants.
Critical allyship shifts the focus from ‘Let’s Do something’ to ‘Let’s get on the same page first’
The 3 essence of critical allyship:
Seeing and uderstanding your role in how the system of oppression creates all the inequalities for those who are marginalized
Learning from the expertise of peope who are traditionally marginalized. Give credit where it’s due also, if you ended up sharing what you learnt to people in your life.
Come alongside the marginalized folks you champion, help them build insights and mobilize actions amongst people in privileged position. Work under their leadership and let them provide the direction.
I am aware that point #3 may make it sound like I am contradicting what I mentioned previously. Though, the emphasis here is DOING things ALONGSIDE, not doing something for them…
Let’s leave you with some concrete ideas on how to practice critical allyship in the workplace to get your momentum going.
We build trust through small, intentional, thought out actions and conversations. So, start there and see where it takes you.
Trust is earned and it goes a long way.
If you happen to be a leading expert in your field or in a certain topic, the next time you’re invited to be a presenter, suggest the name of a fellow co-worker from a marginalized background instead. Their voices deserved to be heard too!
Also, if someone has done behind-the-scenes work for you or your project, openly acknowledge that in the public space.
Some folks from certain backgrounds, including myself, may not be as outspoken about our small valuable contributions. That’s why having someone who genuinely cares about lifting one another up really helps!
Does critical allyship means no more actions as LGBTQ+ allies?!?
A few final reminders in showing your critical allyship in the workplace
There is no one-size-fits-all approach on how critical allyship in the workplace is supposed to look like.
There is no mold or manufacture ready-to-follow instructions to make critical allysip happen.
It is okay to admit that you don’t know the solution to every problem under the sun.
In fact, that is the essence of critical allyship. That is you don’t know, and it is okay not to know everything. And it is actually better to walk alongside someone we champion.
It is okay not to jump into actions right away.
It is our natural inclination. Though it is good to actually take a pause and listen.
Let’s shed the old way of doing things. Not because it’s bad. Though we’re just stepping into something new and there’s is beauty in trying something new.
Throughout this pandemic, I witnessed telehealth virtual sessions become more of a norm, and it has been super transformative seeing clients can access mental health services from the comfort of their home.
There are lots of different stereotypes out there, and society tells us who we are supposed to be and what we are supposed to do in the world. It can feel very overwhelming and confusing to compare our personal experience against those ideas. The thing is, you no longer have to be defined by what society tells you. It is your life to live, and you get to decide who get a say about your life.