Escaping the Grind: Why Rest Is the Ultimate Act of Self-Care in Today's Society
This week, let’s dive in a bit more on the topic of what happen when we neglect rest.
We live in a super fast-paced world that over-glorify productivity.
No wonder we are surrounded by over-stressed, pushed-too-the-brink individuals who snapped at you when you were 5 minutes late to an appointment .
The constant pressure to meet deadlines, surpass high expectations, and maintain certain kinds of lifestyle could take a toll on you.
The fast-paced nature of our modern life, coupled with constant connectivity afforded by technology normalizes stress.
Stress has become a bit of a buzz word, that more often than not we glance over and assume we all think the same about the word.
A few of the most common ones I see (in my practise) are:
- People feeling confused with who they really are
- Individuals feeling overwhelmed with fulfilling others’ demands (could be from family, friends, or self) and finding it hard to name what they want
- People feeling like a misfit because who they think they are on the inside doesn’t match how they feel others see them
- Individuals feeling pressured to have to be everywhere all at once and having everything figured out
I so resonate with the part where when we are overwhelmed, it is much easier to default to do what others suggested us doing, rather than taking time to reflect on out values and desires.
The thing is that, operating on this default mode can, over time, make us feel even more confused with who we really are and dissatisfied with life.
This was me many years ago. After completing high school, I listened to what others told me I should do, and soon enough I realized that there was a great mismatch between what others think of me and how I think of myself (and also wished my life to turn out).
That was the beginning of my personal healing journey of undoing and unlearning a bunch of life stuff.
The beginning of this radical transformation was rest.
My version of rest was hitting the pause button on life, taking a step back, noticing what has been happening in my life, identifying what’s working and what’s not working, and slowly started the journey of sifting through my whole web of life.
In the next article, I will flesh out a bit more about rest as the remedy to stress.
And for me, rest was the remedy to my whole confusion and dissatisfaction in my life.
Throughout this pandemic, I witnessed telehealth virtual sessions become more of a norm, and it has been super transformative seeing clients can access mental health services from the comfort of their home.
There are lots of different stereotypes out there, and society tells us who we are supposed to be and what we are supposed to do in the world. It can feel very overwhelming and confusing to compare our personal experience against those ideas. The thing is, you no longer have to be defined by what society tells you. It is your life to live, and you get to decide who get a say about your life.